See below for a selected list of the resources many of the families I have worked with have found helpful. This list is sorted by general categories. May you find new resources and knowledge to help your family thrive.
The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina P. Bryson (2011)
This is a wonderful parenting book that focuses on how to parent in a way that integrates key aspects of your child’s brain.
No-Drama Discipline. By Daniel Siegel and Tina P. Bryson (2013)
The newest book out by Dan Siegel and Tina Bryson. This book provides clear strategies on how to parent effectively given the development of your child’s brain and their abilities. Research-based ideas that really work.
Dan Siegel’s website has nice links to help you understand how the brain functions and how you can use this information in your parenting.
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids. How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. By Dr. Laura Markham. (2014)
Written for parents who are wanting to create a more peaceful family life. Focuses on on tools for parents to get into a better space to parent how they want, and also includes specific strategies for working with hard behaviors of young children.
There are lots of great ideas at Dr. Laura Markham’s website (www.ahaparenting.com) for parents. Check out this article on using positive parenting with preschoolers:
Nurture Shock. By Po Bronson & Ashley Merryman (2009)
While this book doesn’t provide specific guidance for parents, it is packed full of information based on current research that may change the way you think about your child and their behavior. Great chapter on sleep, the effects of praise, why kids lie and sibling conflict.
Positive Discipline books by Jane Nelson & colleagues.
Jane Nelson and her colleagues have written many books on using positive discipline with young children. Find the book that fits what you are looking for. Titles include (but are not limited to!): Positive Discipline: The First Three Years; Positive Discipline for Preschoolers, Positive Discipline for Blended Families, Positive Discipline for Single Parents. All of these books are easy to read, and have many great ideas for how to handle hard behaviors in young children.
Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn (1997)
Lots of ideas for approaching your parenting from a place of balance and inner calm.
Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation. By Sharon Salzberg (2011)
Great book for learning about the practice of meditation. Very easy to read and follow. Provides a 30 day guide to bringing meditation into your life.
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman (1997)
This book provides clear steps on how to promote emotional intelligence in your child by using difficult emotional moments as opportunities for growth and learning. Emotional intelligence refers to the ability of an individual to empathize with others, soothe themselves when angry, anxious or upset, problem solve with others when issues come up and delay gratification in order to reach personal goals. John Gottman is one of the leading researchers of couples and families in the world.
Dr. John Gottman is a researcher and author who has made significant contributions in the area of emotions and young children. Read the article below for a brief overview of his concept of “emotion coaching” and try it out with your children!
The Art of Roughhousing. Anthony T. DeBenedet, M.D. and Laurence J. Cohen, Ph.D. Quirk Books, Philadelphia, PA. 2010.
Great resource for parents who are trying to find good outlets for children with lots of energy. This book gives an overview of current research on the positive impact of roughhousing on young children, as well as very detailed descriptions of creating safe and fun roughhousing experiences for parents and children.
The Opposite of Worry: The Playful Parenting Approach to Childhood Anxieties and Fears. by Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D
Wonderful book for those of you parenting a child who may have issues with anxiety and fear. Also nice for parents who have these same issues! Very easy to read and packed full of great ideas for supporting hard emotions in the family.
Growing Up Brave: Expert Strategies for Helping Your Child Overcome Fear, Stress and Anxiety. By Donna B. Pincus (2012)
Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (1998)
This is a classic, yet still very applicable, book for parents who are raising children that are more challenging than the average child. Very affirming and helpful in understanding how temperament plays a role in your child’s behavior. Includes ideas for bringing out the best in your child!
This website provides a tool for taking a “temperament” test your child. Interesting way to get some insight into who your child is.
Wondering how you can help your children learn self-control? This site has research-based ideas on supporting your child in building self-control.
This site, handinhandparenting.org, has a list of articles, podcasts and other resources for parents. It’s very easy to navigate and has lots of practical ideas for parents. Check out the link below if you are struggling with a child who has aggressive behaviors.
Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children. by Michael Thompson & Catherine O’Neill (2001).
Great research-based book with plenty of anecdotes for learning about why friendship is so important for children, the role of gender issues, and how parents can support their children develop strong friendships.
Playground Politics: Understanding the Emotional Life of Your School-Age Child by Stanley Greenspan (1994).
Social Skills of Preschoolers:
Click this link for information on how parents can support their children developing social skills.
Sensory Integration Issues
The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder, Revised Edition by Carol Stock Kranowitz and Lucy Jane Miller (Paperback – April 4, 2006)
Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Integration Issues by Lindsey Biel and Nancy Peske (Paperback – Mar 1, 2005)